Here on the Ai Squared blog, we spend an awful lot of time discussing living life as a visually impaired person with all of its struggles, strategies, and successes. And with organizations such as the NFB , AFB, and local blind agencies, we certainly have a lot of information and support at our disposal. But what about our spouses? They drive us around, read us restaurant menus, act as our unpaid personal travel agents, and get interrupted to fix our computers among other things.
I often complain (even if it’s just to myself) of how incredibly long it takes me to do simple things because of my poor vision. But I never gave much thought to the added burden, responsibilities, and time taken from our respective spouses as they coordinate their extra transportation and grocery shopping duties. We have our cool techno-gadgets and information sharing blogs like this to keep us on track, but is there any emotional support for our spouses when they get discouraged and overwhelmed?
I Googled away, not expecting much results on this subject and was delighted to discover how wrong I was. AFB started a message board a few years ago called Help for Sighted Spouses which is simply flooded with heart-wrenching tales from the sighted spouses’ perspectives. The words “overwhelmed” and “guilty” were pervasive. It even spawned another blog, Support Group for Spouses & Partners of the Legally Blind where sighted spouses can compare notes and give each other helpful ideas and encouragement. So I’m calling on all sighted partners and spouses to share your thoughts here of what it’s like to live with us! Or start making your own connections to others from the links above where you are allowed to vent a little. I’ll try not to be nosy and look to see what my husband has to say about me.